We Live and We Learn

As you get older you start to understand the world a bit better. You learn that everything isn’t what it seems and money doesn’t grow on trees, you know, the average “it sucks to be a grownup” life lessons. In the last year I’d have to say I’ve learned more about being a real sports fanatic, I’ve opened my eyes and my ears and came to realize everything that glitters isn’t gold.

A few years ago it didn’t matter if the Cowboys were losing or if a player failed, in my eyes they could do no wrong and if anyone said anything critical I would immediately jump in and defend the team I love so much. No one was harder to defend more than Terrell Owens, but I did, and I didn’t back down either.

Now I’ve found myself criticizing them for their horrible plays and penalties and lack of discipline, hell I could go on and on but you all know the problems, how could you not?

Maybe this is the worst season I’ve witnessed as a mature adult so it seems more clear or maybe I’ve opened my mind to understand that unconditional love means that I love them through the good times and the bad. There is no question that these are the bad times. That doesn’t mean I have lost my loyalty to the Dallas Cowboys. Any sane person can see a team that is 1-6 is not a good team.

You want to argue that there is wasted talent on the team? Outside of Dez Bryant, Jason Witten and DeMarcus Ware, and a healthy Tony Romo, this team is mediocre at best. That’s my honest opinion and it really wasn’t that easy to admit. How many of the Cowboys do you expect to be elected to the Pro Bowl this year?

The heart breaker is that we came into the season with high hopes and expectations. When you really think about it, we didn’t change much in the offseason. Our biggest acquisition was Dez Bryant and he has completely lived up to everything we wanted him to be. He has a bright future with the Cowboys and we should look forward to celebrating wins and beyond with Dez. But it won’t be this year.

I will continue to watch the games and try to go into them with an open-mind and an open-heart. They might win a few of them.

I expect a big offseason with major changes everywhere. You know what happens then? You go into rebuilding mode. Things aren’t going to immediately be better just because we got a new coaching staff and a few new faces on the field. Everyone who is screaming, “Fire Wade!” you will get your wish, but it isn’t the cure-all answer. I hope you’re in for the long haul because I know I am.

Maybe it’s true in football as it is in life – once you hit rock-bottom there’s no way to go but up.

We won’t be celebrating 50 years in Dallas with a winning season or a trip to the playoffs, and we certainly won’t be the first team to play the Super Bowl in our own stadium. At least not this year. I am well aware that we still have nine games to go but there are too many problems that ail this team to realistically believe they still have a chance.

When you watch them play you can actually see them giving up. You can see the mood change on the field, especially after Tony Romo’s season abruptly ended a week ago.

So I guess I will get torched and people will say I’ve given up on my team. I haven’t given up on them, they gave up on themselves. Like I said I will always be a Cowboys fan, and I will continue to defend them but not without some criticism of my own. It’s almost as if I have been reborn as a fan and it hasn’t been easy. Going through life thinking everything is rainbows and butterflies, or Lombardi trophies and Super Bowl rings, is definitely so much easier.

Yes, I am a Cowboys fan for life and no matter the record they have my full support and loyalty. However, I’m not so naive anymore that I can preach to you how great they are when in reality there is nothing to brag about in 2010. We may see some bright spots here and there, and surely we will tack on some more wins but we are not contenders. Maybe once you realize what I have, it may be easier to watch a game and not bust holes in your walls.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m sad about this season and all of the lost dreams. The Super Bowl is in Dallas, and believe it or not on my birthday. No one wanted this more than me! It was fate. But it’s not going to work out the way we dreamed it would.

Just another life lesson – life doesn’t always work out like we planned.

Comments
  1. Rob V.

    Welcome aboard Kelly. I started feeling that same way last season. And you are right, they did give up on themselves.

  2. Michelle G

    Kelly, I feel exactly the same way. I’m extremely disappointed in how the Cowboys’ season has gone so far. I still had a small shred of hope until Tony got hurt…..then I knew it was over. I’m sorry, but Kitna is a joke. They should be playing McGee instead. Regardless of what happens, I will ALWAYS love my Cowboys. Win, Lose, or Tie, Cowboys Fan Until I Die!!!

  3. David Liburdi

    Kelly, I couldn’t have put it better. I have always believed that we would be an above average team, onl because Jerry Jones could afford one. Mediocrody has infiltrated has. A tam full of talent…but no team work. It has been a tease the last few years and now the bottom has finally fallen out, There is really nowhere to go but up from here. It will be a long haul and we can all be hopeful for the future.

    • Joanna

      I use to fight, verbally, all the guys at work about my team, the all american team, and now all I can do is keep riding around with my flags on my car to show them that I have not given up on my COWBOYS. Fan for life!

  4. Now this is the kind of post I want to see more of from you Kelly.

    Some people turn a blind eye toward objectivity because of some unwritten rule that says fans are not allowed to criticize their team. That’s a load of horse manure.

    It’s easy to keep your mouth shut and say nothing about the bad times if you have no passion, but passionate fans experience the emotions that come from winning and losing. It’s not all about waving your pom-poms 24/7 like some high school cheerleader on a Friday night.

    Learn the game so that way you can spot the mistakes and understand why the most intelligent Cowboys fans say and write what they do.

    Great job Kelly and welcome to the real Dallas Cowboys Fan Club. The one where we don’t wave pom poms or wear stars on our heads 24 hours a day and cheer while the team is on hard times.

  5. Ayre

    Don’t get me wrong, I will fight tooth and nail to defend my team, but I also don’t look at them with rose colored glasses either. This is as painful a season as any simply because in 1989 we pretty much knew what we had then. After the bye, I thought we were gonna turn it up, but apparently we turned it off. Damn.

  6. Chin Kim

    it doesn’t mean ur not a fan, just because u tell it like it is. im sorry, but i hate the people that wont see things the way the are. things don’t get better until people want to talk about the big ol gorrilla in the room. THIS TEAM IS OVERRATED, with a bunch of guys that think they are better than they are. case in point..Myles Austin! dude’s datin celbrities like he’s done anything.

  7. Byron

    We are not over-rated We are under-coached, You can not have soft practices and soft training camps and be a Champion that only makes a Soft Team , You can’t have a Coach who doesn’t want to hurt anyones feelins or make anyone mad and be a Champion it just doesn’t work that way in the NFL,

    like any job You have to have someone holding people acountable for poor performance and poor effort and there is none of that goin on with the Boys !

    You have to be willing to work hard to make it to the Superbowl, this Team is just an HC, 2 O-linemen and one FS and some hard work away from Greatness!
    if coaching doesn’t matter then why do they get paid so much because it does matter and that is the biggest problem here !

  8. Raina

    Kelly I so agree with you. The Monday night game is the only game that I was ashamed of the boys in 30 years. I have never seen a team quit and it upset me. I can’t wait to see what happens this off season. Dez is the only player I felt proud of so far. But I LOVE them and always will. I will continue to write for LSS. But as I have realized in the last few years I try to look at some fans point of view instead of going off on them for being haters. hugs Kelly!

  9. Nate

    Great job, Kell. Sometimes ya just gotta get real with yourself and the world. Now is the time for Cowboys fans to do the same. Ya take the good with the bad and learn during the process. I gotta lot of love and respect for ya girl. Hugs.

  10. Orlando

    As a fan since 76 ive seen a lot this season is very hard to swallow as much as I hate to use this word its surreal. I really thought at this point we would be be 6-1 never in my worst nightmares did I think it would be 1-6. This is when you find out who the True Blue fans are and I can tell you with my silver and blue heart that I love my Dallas Cowboys through the thick and thin. I will bleed silver and blue till the day I die and when I do die I will still be besides GOD in heaven watching through that hole in the roof at Americas Team the Dallas Cowboys!!!!!

  11. Tom

    Realistically, we all know the season is over. I knew that when Romo was flat on his back, finally the victim of a poor offensive line and a missed blocking assignment. I love my Boys and always will. We hate the kind of football we’re seeing. We know we’re better than this, but not this year. I’ve already made the transition in my mind to the off-season, but always keeping an eye on my team, with the hopes that we become that explosive unit again.

    We’ll be fine when Jerry realizes that there need to be a strong HC on the sidelines and strong coaches of his choosing. His ego is holding this team back and he needs to see that. We’ll love our Boys, show our loyalty, but when you see what we’re doing on the field, you have to just shake your head in disbelief before you put the bag over it. I saw a team quit when Romo got hurt and a team neglect to show up and made a mediocre Jacksonville team into the 2006 New England Patriots.

  12. Koby

    Jerry Jones is the problem in Dallas. Untill he hires a real G.M and let the Head Coach actually coach, the Cowboys are not going to win a superbowl any time soon.

  13. Dafino13

    Jerry Jones needs to pull his head out and let his coaches make decisions about players.
    He lives in some fantasy world trying to make decisions on players that have hurt the team.
    If he would admit and cut Williams, he could afford to sign primo players at safety position and linedman instead of rethreads at discount prices.